Guilty or Not?

Have you ever compared your success to that of your friends, neighbors, or acquaintances? I assume most of us have done this; I know I have. Of course, you want them to be successful in every way. But obtaining a valid discernment from surface only, gives you no facts. Everyone has a story.

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If you compare yourself to your perception of others, then the possibility of your self-esteem deflating is great. The negative assumptions you allow to roll around in your mind can be harmful to your mental well-being. Even though the outward appearance seems perfect, it’s exactly that. ‘Seems’ may be the key word because that individual could be struggling inwardly.

Is there one method of how you measure success? Essentially, it’s up to interpretation. What does success mean to you? Think about what you want in life. What kind of person do you aspire to be? In my opinion, here’s what you shouldn’t do – don’t give dollar signs too much power in measuring success. They can be misleading. Other factors display victory, such as volunteering, honest work ethic, being a loving parent, sister, daughter, son, friend, etc. The list is endless.

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Think carefully how you measure success because the last thing you need is to fall into a depressed mind-set caused by comparing yourself to others. Letting those unfavorable thoughts take control of your mind will only create clutter and make things messy in your life. So, here’s a must-do…focus on what makes you feel successful. Everyone has demons. It’s in our DNA to judge. That doesn’t mean it’s healthy. You and I both know it’s not, so try not to do it. It’s as simple as that. Focus on you, not on how others seem on the outside.

Do you have any thoughts on this subject? Any experiences? For example, I’ll start by saying that since I didn’t go to college, I’ve compared myself to those who have. As a result, at times, my mood shifted into puddles of negativity. As some of you may remember, I did a post years ago about returning to school. I was excited and had taken all the English courses (which I loved) needed for an Associates Degree. Then I began thinking, “Why am I doing this?” I truly thought deeply about what going back to school would entail. Sure, the diploma would look great hanging on the wall next to my husband’s and children’s. However, I came to the realization that a college degree doesn’t define who I am. I’m Me with or without it. So, I didn’t quit; I just chose not to continue, but I gained a lot from those English classes I took. This entire paragraph’s subject may sound silly to you, but was anything but silly to me – divulging this is me being vulnerable, too. Moving forward, I no longer think those college-educated people are better than me. What they accomplished is commendable, and it’s as simple as that.

The easy road spirals downward; the challenging road stimulates your mind and nudges you to look deeply within yourself.

be you

Lauren ❤
All photos courtesy of Google.

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A Summer Hello

Dear Friends,

I’ve been thinking about you, so I thought I’d send a little note to see how you’re all doing. Maybe I’ve been forgotten, but hopefully not. 🙂

So here’s a little academic update…I was going to take a summer class, but then life intercepted and I chose not to. I’ve already registered for fall though, so I’ll get back into the routine later this month, and I’m taking the last English class needed.

So what’s new with you? How has your summer been? My husband and I spent a week in Lake Tahoe and had a great, relaxing time. Below are a few photos, and I hope life is treating you all well! Sending my love, Lauren ♥

Here’s the Scoop…

Dear Friends,

As most of you know, I took a three month break from blogging, and I have recently returned. I missed it, and I missed seeing all of you who have faithfully followed and supported me. I’ve taken many breaks throughout the past five years, so please know that I’m not crazy…But I have to be honest with myself in realizing that blogging just isn’t in me anymore. I’ve started slowly with college (which I snubbed soon after high school), but I’ll begin to take more classes each semester to finish earlier-or at least before I’m too old to walk across the stage-and if I do this, blogging won’t have a time slot. Honestly, writing poems is still on the back burner, but my next English class will involve creative writing and poetry, which might help stir up some inspiration.

So…I’m going to keep my blog open (for now), but I won’t be continuing to interact in the blog world. For five years, this blog has been a big part of my life, but I feel that part has run its course, and now a new chapter is evolving. I guess I won’t say that I’ll “never” return, but for now, it looks unlikely. I’m excited about my college journey, even in mid life, and I have officially decided to pursue an Associates Degree in English, and who knows, I may even go for a Bachelor’s! You’re never too old, right?

Anyway, that’s it, my honest feelings. I tried and gave it another shot, thinking that I would jump right back in like before, but things are different now. I’ve changed and so has life. I sincerely wish you all the best, and I’ll miss you.
So…Stay Safe, and Be Happy!

With Love, Hugs, and Blessings,
Lauren ♥

 

 

 

Just Go For It!

 

 

Accomplish picassa with Sabrina's photo 2015

 

In honor of our daughter’s university graduation, I found this quote, which I thought was perfect for today’s festivities and celebrations. The gorgeous photo is from my good friend, Sabrina.

Our daughter has persevered not only academically but also personally and today she’ll walk across the finish line with a Bachelor’s Degree in hand. To say we’re proud doesn’t even cover all the emotions. 🙂

So go out and Live, Dream, Act and Believe!

Sending much love, Lauren ♥

Young at Heart – Tanka (and a bit more) :)

Back to school image

It’s time to step out

of my comfort zone and back

onto a campus –

new goal is exciting, but

my nerves are doing dances

© LScott 2013

Back to School Photo: Google Images

I began working full-time after high school,
married in my late twenties,
had children and here I am.

I’ve just been inspired by my daughter graduating
from community college.
A
dditionally, there were many older adults
who graduated, as well,
some in their fifties and
the oldest was 73!
I’m 52, so I think I fit in, don’t you? 🙂

My goal is to return and work towards an AA in English;
a great opportunity to refresh my brain in many aspects.
Can I do it?  Of course I can…
but I’m a little nervous, too.

I feel good about this; something new for me,
as my kids are now moving on, too.
My hubby has also encouraged me,
so the timing feels right…
to satisfy a hunger to learn more
and to keep my brain young.

If any of you can relate to this new chapter in life,
I’d love to hear your story.
Wish me luck!
🙂

Lauren Inverness 2013

College – Haiku

college-graduation

tuition and books,

student housing apartments

fine, take my checkbook

🙂

© LScott 2013

Our daughter is graduating today from community college
and transferring to a university in the fall to work on her BA.
We’re so excited for this new chapter in her life
and so very proud of her hard work.
She especially didn’t let some daunting speed bumps stop her
or even slow her down to reaching this goal.
Her dedication and perseverance inspires everyone
who knows her…

Moving forward…♥